It turns out that we are more inclined to remember events that reflect favorably on us than events that reflect unfavorably on us. That doesn’t mean we don’t have any negative memories. There are some things that turned out disasterously that you need to remember so that you don’t repeat the mistake.
Even so, there’s a difference between the negative and positive memories. [Cites study by Arnaud D’Argembeau and Martial Van der Linden ‘Remembering Pride and Shame: Self-enhancement and the phenomenology of autobiographical memory] The study showed that the positive events we remember in greater detail and the negative events.
It’s as if we are preparing ourselves to tell in glorious detail the good things, the things that reflect favorably on us. Whereas the negative memories don’t seem so designed for retelling. They are to remember and maybe not share. When it comes to other people, we don’t find this asymmetry.
I think of [the concept of] me as a little bit more like a press secretary or public relations department which is broadcasting things in the world that are useful for [the self], maintaining your reputation and so on. But really there’s a lot of decision making going on that you don’t have conscious access to.
We don’t always understand the motif behind our own actions. The unitary sense of self is more broadcast media, as opposed to all these different bits and pieces [in our minds] that are doing the actual work [of living and reflecting].
Fear of Drunk People

Some people are afraid of drunk people. No, not just “dislike” them or “uncomfortable with their unpredictableness,” etc., but deeply terrified and genuinely scared.

Decided to post about fear of drunk people because it’s been mentioned a lot on forums, but google search returns no legit results about this fear, with many, many opinions that “no one can actually be scared of drunk people in general.”

This is to support those people who are really afraid. Fear of drunk people is as a valid as any. Like all generalized anxieties, this one can be irrational, disproportional, causing distress, and is very real.

How To Be The Most Stressed Out Person You Know

I like these tips. I like these tips a lot. I’ve done most of them. Really works! Wanna be the most stressed person around? THIS is definitely the way to go! :D [Just read, enjoy, and cut those activities from your life;)]

We Are Non-Existant

Here’s my assignment for the coursera course Buddhism and Modern Psychology by Robert Wright, it includes some of my key views in psychology:

by Maria Ivanova

Dear peer, in my essay I’ll be talking about the non-existent self referred to in Question 2. The Buddha explains that form, feeling, perception, mental formations, consciousness - things one would usually consider elements to a self - are, in fact, all not-self. I would like to agree with this statement. When in his third lecture Robert Wright said us, students in this class, might disagree with the Buddha’s claim that there might not even be a self, I was honestly surprized as I could see how such statement is true.
Throughout their life, a person changes preferences multiple times, over outlook on life changes constantly, and this person inside “running the show” (as prof. Wright likes to refer to it) is not necessarily there. From my knowledge in psychology, I discovered that a self is often a construct, just like any abstract idea. The concept of self serves it descriptive purpose but is not necessarily reflected by the reality. The majority of cells in our bodies changes completely in about 7 years, if I’m not mistaken, so we are essentially a different person. The theoretic concept of self, in my opinion, is a representation of a function in our body responsible for continuity of our existance and perception, but it probably wouldn’t be a stretch to say that this feeling of continuity can be as illusory as the feeling of continuity of the picture reflected by our eyes - we think that we see the whole picture while in actuality we just see bits and pieces and our mind connects them together in a coherent story, not necessarily 100% accurate. The studies that confirm this could be used to model studies to learn more about the self, its functions, advantages and shortcomings. And I am sure the scientists would be able to uncover (if they haven’t yet, maybe I just didn’t read the latest studies) evidence that our self is just making up this entertaining story called “my life,” when it, in fact, has much less to do with someone “running the show” than we tend to assume.
Why do I support the Buddha’s position? Reason one - psychological studies done to date (the ones I referred to above); reason two - personal experience.
I’ll elaborate on the second reason. My personality does not feel very whole or unified to me, it changes over time quite significantly, and rereading my old diaries or notes most often feels like I am reading something created by a different person. I could relate to the idea of the five elements of self - 
form, feeling, perception, mental formations, consciousness - having just functional role in our bodies. For years now, I have nurtured the idea that humans are very similar to stones carved by the sea - we just respond to the environment that imprints accidental things that happen to us in our brain (which is, essentially, a reflective mechanism, as we know from Introduction to Psychology textbooks).

Essentially, I don’t think we are “alive.” I think we are just a product of environment and we accidentally happened to have evolved into this illusion of an intelligent being. And our experience is that of an intelligent being but, in fact, we are not - we just do whatever’s genetically provided response to each stimuli is. We breathe, eat, procreate, gather information that was originally helping us “survive” (transfer the genes to the next generation) but is now also creating this wizard-of-oz-ian illusion of someone being “in charge” inside our heads.

STOP! Don't Send That Resume!

Have you ever wondered who reads your resume? Liz Ryan has an answer - n.o.b.o.d.y.

Key points: Most resumes don’t get read. Send snail mail. Secret tip from Welcometomentalward? *whispers* Send that application several times - increases the chances of getting into those 25 percent they are actually looking at.

A little something on why it’s important to find your passion in life.